Love is as Love does

 A PARABLE: A certain man, as a result of genetic predisposition, was addicted to drugs.  After a time he allowed the addiction to define him as a person.  His friends and family loved him and wanted to help him.  Some of them concluded that because he felt so good when he was on the drugs, and suffered so badly when withdrawing from them, that the most compassionate thing to do would be to supply him with the needed drugs and thus prevent the withdrawal symptoms.  They had been warned that the drugs would eventually kill their friend, but they could only see the short term results.  It made them feel good to shield their friend from the pain and chose not to see that they were in fact harming him permanently.
The others had a longer view.  They believed it was more compassionate to not contribute to their friend's eventual destruction and instead did all they could to dissuade him from using drugs.  They knew the short term pain would blind him and cause their friend to feel victimized and become angry.  Nonetheless they loved him enough to take the brunt of his misplaced indignation, knowing it was best for him and that he would live long enough to eventually be grateful.
Question:  Which group actually loved their friend more?

This post will most likely be regarded as hateful and intolerant by some.  It saddens me that they will choose to ignore the point of my comments because they become defensive.  Labeling people with whom you disagree 'hateful' is intellectual laziness.  My motive is a sincere concern for the welfare, the eternal welfare, of all concerned.

I've recently become aware of a 'movement' made up of members of The Church that are actively supporting legalization of same-gender marriage.  I find this tragic because I wholeheartedly believe these well-meaning church members are shortsighted and that their actions serve to hurt the very people they wish to support.  They are not seeing the big picture.

For the purpose of this discussion I'll concede that same-sex attraction comes naturally to those that experience it.  They don't ask for it and can't help it.  For those conflicted by it I have much compassion.  That said, I believe that makes it no different than other unwelcome temptations faced by all people, except that it has become politicized.  The 'natural man' is routinely beset with temptations which are not welcomed, but that we are nonetheless expected to resist.  What could be more natural than lust, greed, envy, selfishness, pride, hatred, etc. Which should we endorse next?  We all have burdens to carry.  It is a vital component of the growth we came here to experience.
For those of faith that profess to believe in scripture, it is inescapable that those who engage in homosexual behavior will be subject to eternal consequences.  Ignoring this truth does not change the reality of it, disliking this truth does not nullify it, garnering supporters will not alter it.  Defining morality is God's privilege, not ours.
True compassion for those that experience same-sex attraction by people of faith requires that we tell the truth for their long term benefit, even if it means taking the brunt of their misplaced indignation.  I know it's hard sometimes.  Professed followers of Christ that enlist to endorse same-sex marriage simply become well-meaning enablers.  They are in fact harming them badly and permanently.  Good intentions cannot divorce us from the consequences of our actions.