Personalities don't just come in different types and shapes, they come in different sizes too.
I have a larger than average personality.
Our personalities are not only made of up of individual traits, but how they mix and combine together.
When you magnify charisma with a big personality, you end up with someone that's "larger than life". Enlarge a less charismatic personality and you'll often just end up with someone that is "over the top". I, unfortunately, am the latter.
This is not something of which I am completely ignorant. But all too often awareness dawns just a little too slowly, leading to regret and remorse.
With conscious effort I've learned to hold it in check most of the time. But sometimes it seems to just come pouring out like a salt shaker cap someone failed to secure properly. The results are similar too: someone ends up with more of my personality than they wanted. Sometimes a LOT more.
To people with normal size personalities, surrounded by other normal people, I can appear stressed, upset, or even angry when I'm not. They mistake a sudden change in VOLUME of personality as a mood change. This is where the regrets come in because I can make people uncomfortable. That in turn sometimes leaves me feeling somewhat foolish.
I'll continue to work on managing it. It doesn't always fit with my desire to be more Christ-like. Meanwhile I hope those to whom I am close have, or will, come to understand.
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